If you are being held captive, against your will, by one of these Ghosts, perhaps it is time to say that the ransom is paid. Give yourself the freedom to enjoy the festive time of year again. So let us examine these ghosts a little closer…
You're being held hostage by this ghost if you often find yourself rushing around, over-organising, working extra hours, partying and struggling with what seems like endless Christmas shopping.
If the Ghost of Christmas Future is holding you ransom then you may have feelings of anxiety, worry or over-concern for other people. Maybe there’s a list in your head of seasonal disasters. It’s normal to want the people you love to have the best Christmas possible, but if you find yourself anxious with these thoughts and feel that you’ll be to blame if everything goes wrong - this ghost’s holding you ransom!.
If it is the Ghost of Christmas past who holds you ransom then Christmas is most likely a sad time of year. There might be some unresolved grief around the memories that this time of year holds. Perhaps you are missing a loved one. Or if something bad happened to you at Christmas, maybe as a child, it can be relived annually.
For some, every piece of tinsel Christmas tree light might bring a twinge of anger or resentment. We hold trauma deep within us and sometimes the smallest things can make us live those traumas again and again until we anticipate them and know what is coming. Here Christmas can hold dread.